Venus in Virgo: The "Build-a-Bitch", "I Can Fix Them" Syndrome

Venus in Virgo: The good, the bad and the ugly. Listen to Sza's Garden, Jealousy by Olivia Rodrigo, Build a Bitch by Bella Poarch, and Real Love by Mary J. Blige to set the scene for this placement 🎧🎵

The good: Venus in Virgos are practical lovers. Their love language is acts of service and they make it a point to be of service and devoted to their partners. They know that love is not enough and that all relationships require work at some point in time. They can be realistic when it comes to standards. They are interested in working out problems that arise in a relationship and improving or leveling up themselves and/or their partners. These are the signs who work tirelessly to assist making the dreams of those they love come true (sign opposite is pisces).

These natives also think practically and tend to have a goal or plan when it comes to a relationship. They like to achieve something in partnerships. You may also see this sign go into business or start some sort of trade with their partner where they see their partner everyday or work closely with them. They may also have a financial impact on their partner when it comes to accounting or be on the payroll in some way to them-- this is the partner who might handle the finances or help grow mutual funds between the two.

Because this sign is mercury ruled- this placement enjoys doing routine activities with a partner (errands, appointments, cooking, walks, etc). Fitness or health-related endeavors, especially. Routine activities that better each partners' health are commonplace.

Lastly, this placement enjoys knowing the little things about you. They take note of specific quirks, details, food preferences, and information about you. They will be the ones to know what you're allergic too, what you don't like and your preferences. This placement will also be the one to research things that are important or pertinent to their partners. You'll find many venus in virgos who are fond of books, writing paraphernalia, or interested in cultivating a library or dedicated study space for their niche interests.

It's no surprise that this bookish and analytical side also extends to their partners. If you have a problem or situation of concern, they'll likely learn or read up about it overnight and become an expert over time in order to assist you with it in some way. This is the sign you want beside you in the "sickness" or health portion of nuptial vows, as they will stick beside you during times of weakness or healing. They will come through for you, during times of need or when you are sick.

The bad and ugly: It's what I term the "build-a-bitch" or "I can fix them" syndrome. What this means, is someone may be picky or critical of their partner or obsessive about their partners looks, life choices or problems. OR, a native can attract partners like this. They may like to treat their partners like projects or fixer-uppers. This can push a partner to change or morph themselves to placate or heed the critique of their venus in virgo partner.

On a personal note, these natives are very critical of themselves and can talk down to themselves, use self-depracation to ingratiate themselves with others, and like to humble themselves before someone else does. They are the ones to look for things to fix about themselves rather than appreciate the good qualities they have. You can be critical of yourself, your looks and how you compare to others. This can be financially, materialistically, and even in your relationships. Comparisons can be the theif of joy, here. Not to mention, many natives can turn the self-critical talk they have for themselves outwards. Verbal abuse or manipulation can be an aspect-- being a mercury ruled venus indicates communication is an aspect to this placement.

Mercurial energy with venus can mean this person can be inconsistent or displeased with their choices in partners or inclined to change everything about their partners once they're in a relationship. There can be an ideal that is unrealistic or unattainable in a wish to reach perfection.

I also term it the "nip tuck" sign 🔪. Many natives go under the knife or consider surgical procedures and surgical enhancements to reach a certain beauty ideal. Lastly, this placement can be dangerous in that you tie your self-esteem or self-worth to how helpful or of use you are to others. This can mean you can become a slave to a person's desires and enter the territory of being used. If you have this placement, be careful not to fall into this trap.

Another interesting thing about this placement is the financial and career implications for this Venus sign. Many venus in virgos do well in areas of life that require an eye for details and technicalities. Since Venus has financial implications, any career in the health fields, fitness, wellness, information, editorial, nutrition and medicine sectors are highly profitable for you. Your love for knowledge and research can give you an edge in any field you choose but especially fields or careers dealing with virgo subjects-- the above mentioned ones. Cosmetic or plastic surgeons for example, would do very well with this placement (combining aesthetics with medical and anatomical knowledge ⚕️🩺🥼).

Also, this is a great placement for anyone considering the fashion industry-- you have an eye for detail, a knack for tailored fits, well-tailored lines and appreciation for how best to highlight the human form. Honestly, any profession dealing with measurements, metrics and technical skills. Not to mention, you are all very good with your hands 🖐🏾 (i.e. sewing🧵🪡). With mercury ruling the hands, it makes sense why any type of "handy work" you do can be considered a "work of art". Arts and crafts, carpentery, sketching/painting, massage therapy, estheticians, or reiki work are all worthwhile professions that center around your gifted hands.

I also forgot to mention, this placement is BIG on hygeine 🧼🤣, that should be a given in any person but unfortunately you'd be surprised in this day and age 😫. Anyways, they are very particular about themselves and their partners' cleaning habits-- foreplay can even involve a shower 🛁. I'm so dead ass 💀.

Yes, this Venus is considered "in fall"-- traditional astrology-- but do not despair. As you can see, there's always an upside to every placement-- it balances the energy of some of the pitfalls that come with Venus. Consider it a patch 🩹 on a hole when things fall through the cracks and the rose colored glasses come off (a Venus exalted in Pisces isn't always a dream, I promise). When the fantasy wears off, old age kicks in and sickness knocks at the door, these become real concerns that require real world solutions. Love does not necessarily heal all, but the love we have for ourselves and others can push us to seek help and partake in practices that do. Venus here gets real. And that's the best gift of all 😌.

Do you have this placement or know someone who does 👀? What do you think of it, and how do you like it? These are just my thoughts and impressions of Venus in Virgo. Feel free to chime in with your observations 🐸